A long Day

Well I have been  a moving and trucking around today. Woke up and took my In Laws to the Airport as they are off to Vegas to Celebrate Joels Bday . I hope they have an awesome time, they deserve it . After that I went to see my ShawnBear . I miss him so much and I love being there with him even though I know his spirt is not there and he is in Heaven that is my little Safe Haven that I have no worries when I am visiting I feel  so whole . I miss my ShawnBear so much . I want him back so badly. After that I went and got my hair highlighted and a trim so I can look nice for my first day of work on Monday. I am excited and scared at the same time . It will keep me bizy and get me outta bed because I have trouble doing that on a day to day basis. So I hope this is a step in the right direction . I really hope it is . After that I came home and dyed Julias Hair pink for her . Shes been bugging forever and I finally got the color for her . I also found out today that my brother who is about to have a baby in a month just lost his job. I am so worried about him and I m sure he is super stressed out . Especially now with a wife and baby about to be here . I m worried about them. I hope everything works out . I am keeping them in my prayers . Now Im just laying in bed hoping that I fall asleep fairly early cuz I am exausted . I love you ShawnBear for always and forever .

First Day at the New Job

WELL TODAY I STARTED WORK FOR THE FIRST TIME SINCE MY SHAWNBEAR HAS PASSED AWAY . IT WAS JUST ORIENTATION BUT IT WAS SO DRAINING BEING IN A ROOM LISTEN TO SOMEONE TALK AND WATCH VIDEOS ALL DAY LONG . SO BORING . IM AM HAPPY AND GRATEFULL THAT I HAVE THIS JOB I REALLY NEED IT AND IT WILL HELP OUT ALOT . I BELIEVE THAT IT WILL HELP ME WITH MY GRIEVING . I TEND TO HAVE TO HAVE A REASON TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE A GOOD REASON . MOST OF THE TIME I WILL MAKE EXCUSES WHY I DONT WANNA GO OUT OR DONT NEED TO DO SOMETHING . SO THERE IS SOMETHING GOOD TO COME OUT OF THIS . I MISS MY BABY SO MUCH AND I KNOW I NEED TO START LIVING AGAIN BUT DEEP DOWN INSIDE I DONT WANT TO . I JUST WANNA LAY HERE IN MY BED AND DO NOTHING. I ALWAYS LIKED BEING AROUND PEOPLE SO I AM HOPING THIS IS A STEP IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. SO IT WAS A GOOD DAY I HAVE A LOT OF DEPRESSION INSIDE BUT I HIDE IT WELL. I JUST FEEL LIKE ALL I WANT IN LIFE I CANT HAVE AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO REACH OUT AND GRAB IT NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY. THINGS CHANGE PEOPLE CHANGE AND ME I JUST STAND STILL . RELIVING EVERYDAY WONDERING IF I WILL EVER WAKE UP FROM THIS NIGHTMARE I CALL MY LIFE . SO MANY THINGS I WANTED AND NEW THINGS I WANT AND WANT TO DO BUT DO I HAVE THE ENERGY TO DO THEM THAT IS THE QUESTION. ONLY TIME CAN TELL I SUPPOSE . I MISS YOU BEAR FOREVER AND ALWAYS. XOXO MOMMY

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Having a rough day today for some reason. I'm at the cemetary posting from my phone. I just feel so alone in my grief and I miss my baby so much. I know

The Beach Today??

Well woke up really late this afternoon and I am kinda in a funk my back hurts. We talked about going to the beach last night but not sure that were going yet. HOpefully getting out of the house is always good. When I get out I seem to be ok sometimes. Anyhow I read some of my non profit book last nite and it has lots of good information . I need to get ahold of some people at CHOC next to find out about donations and see what I need to do . Hopefully they will let me be a part of handing them out to children
I really think this is a great idea and I really am excited to help other familys in the hospital. Well short post today but I will update again soon .

ShawnBears Heart

I have decided to give back to children inthe Hospital and Familys that go through this. My son was an inspriration to me and I want to be a part of helping others. If it had not been for CHOC and all the great things they did for my son and our family. Things could of been a lot worse . A friend from my grieving group responded when I asked How I could keep Shawn Bears memory alive in giving back. Her response was perfect she said you should do a Teddy Bear DRive and when you have all the Bears have a special ribbon put on them that Says "ShawnBear" A friend for life . That is perfect but I also want to help in other ways to. I have picked the name now I have to figure out how to start up all this filing for the name to be permanant and doing what paperwork you need for a nonprofit bizness. I have a focus and something to keeep me a little bizy hopefully a lot bizy in the future. I love you ShawnBear forever and always . xoxoxo Mommy

One Day at a Time

Well the Holiday is over and I am sure still not sure how I will ever get to enjoy another Holiday without my baby boy here . I miss him so much. It seems just unbearable at times . I do things to try and keep me bizy. Before ShawnBear passed I was a bizy mom going to school working and enjoying life. Now I sit at home and do just about nothing. I have taken some steps to hopefully help in my grief journey to start functioning again the best I know how . I have gotten a new job at WalMart I will starting orientation on Tuesday next week and hopefully start training soon after that and then off to working full time. Im hoping that this helps me to get out of the house and start socializing again even if its just a little bit . I keep telling myself small steps but they feeel like huge giant steps. I have a long journey ahead of me and I dont know whatt the future holds but I am trying. I went to the cemetary today with my oldest son Daniel and we cleaned up the holiday decorations, mowed the grass and Shined up his beautiful stone. I miss him so much. I also worked on my quilt tonite that I am making out of his clothes in memory of him. I do all I can to keep his memory alive.Doing things like this also helps me cope.  I know I keep him in my heart but I want others to know and remember him also. Its only been 5 months and I feel like people (some family and friends) are already forgetting about my precious baby.  I never want him to be forgotton by anyone. I wonder if in the years to come if anyone will even talk about him or the things they remember about him . I always willl and my husband also. I just want his memory to live on and on . xoxox Jennifer

Some thoughts on my mind

Here comes the first holiday of 4th of July that I have to celebrate without my ShawnBear. To me now holidays are pointless if you cant spend them with the ones you love and Love ShawnBear more than I love my self . He was a part of me and when he died a part of me died with him. I know Im still here and I am broken . When is my time ? When do I get to see my beautiful baby again ? When will god call me home. I know the God and ShawnBear would want me to be happy but when you loose a child your whole world changes . Its like life stops and you dont know how to start again. I miss him so much. I am so broken inside I dont know what to do. He was my everything . My baby and now hes gone . I love and miss him so much. I have read books and talked with other moms and they say the pain never goes away but it does get esiar . I cant see that yet but I hope in time I will find my way. My life is falling apart and I am trying so hard to keep it together . Everyone has moved on and they ask me how I am or tell me how strong I  am . If I told them the truth they would probbably lock me up in a mental hospital. So this past week has been for some reason extremly hard on me . Numbness is gone and reality is here . I dont want it . I think numbness was better in a fog not beliving . hOping that he was just going to come home even though he is gone . I miss him so much and I dont know what to do to make things better or even manageable. I do have good days but those days are filled with quilt because I want him here to enjoy them with me .

Love you ShawnBear xoxoxo Mommy  Happy fourth of July my Bear U are Truely missed